b-b-b-b-b-b it happened again
What is it about an attractive woman that makes me lose my nerve and ability to speak? Let me set the scenario for you:I'm trying to set up a lunch date with a woman at work. It's been harder than you might think because as the human resources person, she's in meetings, interviews or on conference calls most of the day. Plus, I'm at my desk immersed in my own stuff. It doesn't help that her office is in the opposite end of the floor, in another part of the building from where I sit.
Early last week, I looked at her schedule and mine and decided it would be easier to break the ice by sending her an email proposing we get together for lunch. It took her a few days to respond but she eventually did saying that she rarely finds time for lunch, often eating right at her desk. She suggested that we might get together for lunch in the downstairs cafeteria sometime but didn't say when. I replied, acknowledging that her schedule was set more than mine and that whatever worked for her was fine with me.
A few days more with no response and I decided to compare her schedule with mine and propose a time myself, which is this Friday at 12:00. When I left today she hadn't responded back so the time is still tentative.
Before I left this afternoon, I checked her schedule and saw that she had gotten out of a meeting at 4 and would probably be in her office. When I left a little after 4:30, I decided I'd swing by her office to say hi and sure enough she was there sitting at her computer.
But I couldn't even manage that! I just did a round about, passed by her door and went home.
So again I ask you (a rhetorical question): What is it about an attractive woman that makes me lose my nerve and ability to speak?
As of 4:30 this afternoon, lunch is on for Friday! This is good. Real good.
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17's are wild in Boston tonight. On the 17th of June, the Celtics will win their franchise and NBA record 17th championship.Twelve minutes to go and Championship basketball will be back in the Hub for the first time in 22 years. And this will actually be the first championship won in Boston in those same 22 years. {The Red Sox won their championships in St. Louis and Denver and the championships the Patriots won were played on neutral fields as they always are.}
The Celtics are on the verge of winning the NBA Championship tonight, blowing out the Lakers by 30 heading into the start of the fourth quarter.
Six minutes left and I have not seen such a dominant performance in a professional basketball game since the days of a guy named Jordan who ruled Chicago in the 1990's. In fact, this may be one of the most lopsided Finals games in NBA history.
Final score: at Boston Celtics 131, Los Angeles Lakers 92
Your Finals MVP is Paul Pierce, the longest tenured Celtics player and ironically, a Los Angeles native who grew up hating the Celtics. After 10 seasons wearing the green and white, playing on a lot of bad teams, no one is more deserving than The Truth. Ray Allen would also be a good choice if Pierce doesn't win it.
Labels: basketball, championships, tongue-tied, women
posted by Tim @ 23:30
10 Comments:
I can't imagine a tongue-tied Green LOL.
Stop by again sometime this week. Don't allow yourself to leave her workspace UNTIL you at least say Hi, how's it going? Or something to that effect.
YOU CAN DO IT!!
=D
d's plan could work.
OR
you could stop stalking her (i mean, honestly? checking her schedule - more than once - and 'swinging by' her office??)
If she agrees to lunch on friday as you suggested, then great! you have a date. Otherwise, consider it a soft touch rejection.
Ya know, I read an article lately about dating in the work place. Having dated in the workplace (then later married) I knew where the article was coming from and decided just to see what it had to say. I thought it had some pretty good pointers.
If you'd like I'll see if I can dig it up.
autumn: sure, if there's an online version of it, send me the link.
d: thanks for the positive vibes!
ag: stalking? hardly. But if you want to think that way, go right ahead.
She did agree to lunch last week but just wasn't sure what her availability would be and actually confirmed the time I proposed today. If she had declined I would have obviously considered it a "soft-touch rejection" as you put it.
By keeping up with her schedule I was simply looking for an opportunity to break the ice, where I knew she'd have a few minutes between meetings and appointments or as it turned out at the end of the day.
All while not wasting time away from my desk, blindly seeking her out not knowing if she'd be there or not. Taking that approach would have definitely been like stalking.
Of course when my opportunity came to actually break the ice, I folded like a house of cards, which was the whole point of the post. Obviously you missed that.
As usual.
G: "By keeping up with her schedule I was simply looking for an opportunity to break the ice"
uh huh, and by standing outside her bedroom window at night (when you knew she'd be there) you could be ready for when she 'signaled' you by opening or closing the blinds.
G: "She ... confirmed the time I proposed today."
Great! Now don't overplay your hand. (i.e. at this point she will NOT be impressed with flowers or a similar gesture). She may be seeing this more as lunch with a coworker than a date.
G: "Obviously you missed that."
No, i got it. I just think you missed a different part of the picture.
~A: "Ya know, I read an article lately about dating in the work place."
From everything I've seen and heard, there's one rule and one rule only for dating in the working place:
DON'T
Sure, sometimes it can work out and everyone lives happily ever after. But all too often, it seems to lead to more trouble than it's worth.
ag: I'm looking at the same way at this point - lunch with a co-worker. Just to sit down and talk to her and get to know her a bit. That is the ultimate goal here in this casual 30 minute lunch: just to socialize.
Would I like to see something more come out of this? Who knows? It's waaaaay too early to tell. I'm not going to rush into anything becasue at this point I know nothing about her, except for her name and that I find her physically attractive.
I've read some online articles about workplace dating and the two big things I remember are that a) you shouldn't work in the same department (which we don't) and b) if a relationship does start, to keep it quiet for the fisrt few months. I'm sure there were other good pointers in the article which I can't recall presently.
Plus, I have the benefit of reading about and learning from the amusing exploits of scribe-o-rama (sorry, man) and EFB, which started out as an office type dating thing if my memory is correct... and seing how (un) successful that turned out to be...
ok...so what happened? lol
Here's the url:
http://dating.personals.yahoo.com/singles/datingtips/81382/5-ways-to-date-a-woman-in-the-workplace
It's not earth shattering, but I thought it made sense. Of course, when I was dating in the workplace, we pretty much skipped all those steps! lol
Ag: I've heard the same thing. Just don't do it.
But there are several reasons why I don't think dating in the workplace is as taboo as it once was. #1. People are spending more and more hours in the workplace. (I'm not saying this is an excuse, it's just a fact.) #2. Staying in a job for very long term just isn't the case anymore. I don't think most workers in today's world expect to stay in their current job for 10-15+ years. So moving on isn't as uncommon as it once was. #3. People with common interests tend to gravitate to the same places, (libraries, bars, whatever) Same could be said for job places.
If done very tactfully, I don't see why a special relationship couldn't work. But I'm CERTAINLY not reccomending making dating in the workplace a "career". It just so happened to work out for me once, I suppose that's all anyone needs.
d: I can't report on a lunch that won't happen until tomorrow! But report I shall... when I have something to report.
autumn: thanks for the link. I did also see/read that article previously. Yeah, I agree with your rebuttal points to AG. The longest I've ever been at one job was five years... and that was more than 10 years ago!
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